Love takes time, effort to last

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)

I’m sure I heard it, read it, maybe even had a Sunday School lesson based on the Bible verse above but I’m not sure it’s sunk in, even in adult life.

While the Bible verse refers to brotherly love it also applies quite succinctly to relationships. Guys, with Valentine’s Day this week you would do well to study this verse a little while. See how you’re doing.

Right away, in that first sentence is my biggest shortcoming: Patience. I’ve got too much to do to be patient with my wife. I can be kind to her though, a card, a dinner out, maybe even flowers. Big deal, when I only think of doing it a couple times a year.

Then we skip down to the part about self-seeking and easily angered. Could this scripture be calling me out personally?

I’ve tried hard to keep no record of wrongs, I think I’m doing better in my 50s than I did in my 20s but I guess there’s still room for improvement.

Now we get to the part about love rejoicing in the truth. I’ve got this one nailed — at least I think she thinks I’m truthful with her. Darn, now there’s that boastful stuff rearing its ugly head. I’m really failing this test.

I’m only making fun of myself by holding my love life up against this scripture to make a point. I truly believe it is possible to fall in lust or even like but it takes time and a lot of work to develop a true and lasting love.

I’ve put in nearly 30 years now developing that true love with my beautiful bride Carol. If you asked her on a good day she might brag on me and say I was a wonderful husband. But there are still those days when I’m not quite living up to the ideals of the 13th Chapter of 1 Corinthians.

I know how much I love her in my heart though and I’m going to keep on working on it. Maybe in another 30 years or so I’ll start to catch on and I’ll know she sees what’s in my heart.